tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774625592830261479.post4172970127265385916..comments2024-03-27T13:22:37.478-07:00Comments on The Glass Character: The Ghomeshi trial: this handful of slimeMargaret Gunninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16281594044624096600noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774625592830261479.post-69589230246977648672016-02-09T00:45:09.834-08:002016-02-09T00:45:09.834-08:00Just let 'em talk. That's the best approac...Just let 'em talk. That's the best approach, because they will eventually prove every single point you are trying to make. Their fist-pounding belligerence/refusal to let you speak will be a perfect example of the thuglike attitudes that are oozing out of the woodwork now. Men or women, makes no difference. (They never recognize this, of course, and become livid if you point it out to them, but it's still kind of satisfying to see.) And if men get in fights after work, it proves they're still ten years old emotionally and poking each other's eyes out in the schoolyard. Margaret Gunninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16281594044624096600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774625592830261479.post-7980355567495751402016-02-09T00:27:08.259-08:002016-02-09T00:27:08.259-08:00And your post made perfect sense to me, Margaret. ...And your post made perfect sense to me, Margaret. I loved its passion.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09808701483929107934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774625592830261479.post-33937252760881709432016-02-09T00:26:31.444-08:002016-02-09T00:26:31.444-08:00Today I had a seasoned reporter from a Toronto dai...Today I had a seasoned reporter from a Toronto daily totally lose it with me. I tried to have a reasoned debate with on this issue. She called me worthless, a child, told me to shut up, and told me to go away all in a public forum. hahaha Holy cow! She was totally unhinged. This is how the insanity of the Ghomeshi trial is affecting otherwise reasonable people. I couldn't believe it. Then she deleted all her posts, because I guess she knew she looked unhinged. She ended by saying that she believed I'd been harassed, because I was doing such a good job of harassing her. OMG. She engaged me in debate, and I was being completely reasonable. She wasn't. And I never said I was being harassed. Never mentioned the word. Clearly harass to her means someone who disagrees with her opinion. <br /><br />I think I'm going to write a blog on how the press is sinking itself with biased reporting. Because she definitely inserted her personal bias into the piece. Reporters are supposed to observe and report.<br /><br />In her article, she said that women who are abuse victims could learn a thing or two from men who are colleagues going out for a drink, and getting into a fight. They just got over it, she said, and so should women. She actually said that. I called her on that...that it was insulting to women and gay men who are survivors of intimate partner violence. I told her there was a big difference between buddies going out for a drink, and intimate partners committing domestic violence. She didn't get it.<br /><br />Anyhow, I left the conversation after telling her she was a lousy reporter. haha Because she was.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09808701483929107934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774625592830261479.post-7847081824118098942016-02-08T11:44:48.986-08:002016-02-08T11:44:48.986-08:00Yes! I saw that one. In the end, no one can silenc...Yes! I saw that one. In the end, no one can silence us. Lately I'm having to remind myself that not all men are jerks. But isn't it funny, when a man IS a jerk, how it's mostly blamed on his mother. Didn't socialize him properly, loved him too much, didn't love him enough, was a working Mom, WASN'T a working Mom, etc. Thanks for your comments - I am glad I'm getting response to this one, though I really would like to distance myself now - why let this guy get a piece of us when he has already done so much damage?Margaret Gunninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16281594044624096600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774625592830261479.post-63117377521661524762016-02-08T11:22:51.868-08:002016-02-08T11:22:51.868-08:00I began a post, but didn't. There were enough ...I began a post, but didn't. There were enough positive women who were similarly pissed off. It is shameful how he sucked these women in. Awful. This is a great article: https://janeeatonhamilton.wordpress.com/2016/02/05/the-preludes-to-assaults/ by another victim.Jenn Jilkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05259681360456905055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774625592830261479.post-71537270120826159072016-02-07T21:22:14.960-08:002016-02-07T21:22:14.960-08:00I have to tell you, Leslie, I think your comments ...I have to tell you, Leslie, I think your comments here are much more on-target than my blog post, which probably got bogged down in my personal stuff. I just went around and around in this, thinking, maybe I can write it out of my soul. The horrible post from that "therapist" rang a lot of bells, but to me it was all tied in with that central fear and loathing of women. Fear more than anything. When I first heard the term "homophobia" some time in the 70s, I thought: wha? FEAR of homosexuality? Now it makes better sense. We fear what we don't want to understand, and the bellowing and fist-pounding increases in direct proportion to that fear. The thuglike comments I've read from celebrated male writers (followed by a volley of enthusiastic "likes") makes my hair stand on end. Burn her, she's a witch! She's a witch. Oh yeah.Margaret Gunninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16281594044624096600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774625592830261479.post-57132038185840727222016-02-07T17:49:51.346-08:002016-02-07T17:49:51.346-08:00Excellent blog on the systemic and cultural misogy...Excellent blog on the systemic and cultural misogyny that's surfacing in the wake of the Jian Ghomeshi trial. It's very disheartening. I stepped into the foray on Twitter yesterday, and although I kept my cool, it was exasperating to be tag-teamed by so many cheerleaders from the "He Man Woman Haters Club". They gleefully ripped into Lucy (and me), not even trying to understand that Lucy is not on trial for sending emails. No, Jian is on trial for punching and choking multiple women, and sexually assaulting them. Whether Lucy sent an email or flirted with him after the assault is irrelevant because it has no bearing on the actual attack, or if consent was given. But truthfully, Lucy could not legally consent to being strangled and punched in the head. That is a felony crime. Jian broke the law, plain and simple. And the "whacking" his lawyer Marie Henein is using is deplorable. The state of Lucy's career is irrelevant to the issue of consent and assault. It's no more relevant than what she wore or how much she drank. And if Henein used racial stereotypes to tear down a complainant there would be an uproar. But the fact she's using misogynistic stereotypes seems to be just fine with some people. I call bullshit. Henein is showcasing the Old Boys Club instead of providing a defense that is rigorous and NOT discriminatory. <br /><br />This is what the Ghomeshi trial has shown me...the judicial system is woefully failing victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. Rape Shield laws need to be reformed. Defense and Crown attorneys need to educate themselves about traumatic memory and maladaptive coping strategies that people with trauma injuries (PTSD) use. Traumatic memory is not linear. Sometimes victims do use "tend and befriend strategies. And for crying out loud, the Courts need to stomp out "whacking". It's not OK to revictimize victims. The accused is entitled to a rigorous defense, not the systemic abuse of their accuser. This is the 21st century, for crying out loud. <br /><br />Sorry you've been so deeply affected by asshats spewing misogynistic rants, Margaret. I get it. That's entirely on their heads. We are fighting the good fight here. I commend you for your words.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09808701483929107934noreply@blogger.com